How you feel is all that matters. It doesn’t matter what is happening in life, or what undesirable circumstance or situation may be at risk of occurring. If you decide to feel good no matter what, your experience of life will be vastly different from someone in your same shoes who is focusing on outcomes they do not want. Be relentless in refocusing your energy towards positive feelings, even if that requires ignoring anyone who speaks in a way that brings you down. They may simply be trying to help, but get in your zone, make daily decisions and embrace the certainty of those decisions. Seek no advice other than the advice you are inspired to absorb. YOU got this.


Found A GEM

So, a few years back – less than 10 but more than 3, an estimate that for some reason now rings more like a riddle – I discovered a Goldmine of Hypnosis Audio.

I remember that I had just gotten into torrents – or had I just gotten into hypnosis / NLP – and looked up some Hypnosis for Procrastination, because McGill. In finding the appropriate hypnotic induction for the job, I also discovered a massive treasure trove of material to go with it. The file included audio from all the Meditation and Hypnosis Greats, including Paul Scheele, Kelly Howell, Paul McKenna, Dick Sutphen, Deepak Shopra, to name just a few.  I gleefully downloaded the whole 2GB Shabang onto laptop number 1,200,224. Viruses be damned! …Wait, maybe that’s why I went through so many laptops..

Anyway, back to the story.

Fortunately,  I actually found them all to be quite useful. In fact, they were all dope, so well done, and absolutely unique.  I just remember that the quality of the subliminals, paraliminals, and background tracks was amazing. They were clearly created by professionals who take hypnosis and their patients very seriously.

Some of the key tracks, such as “The Secret Universal Mind Meditation”, and Paul Scheele’s “Self-Esteem Supercharger,” went with me everywhere. Meaning, over the years I would diligently transfer them onto new USBS, keep an eye out to ensure they were in every new Dropbox account, and email them to myself periodically. There was also an awesome Quit Smoking Hypnotic Audio that worked really well for me. So well that I ultimately didn’t have to keep an eye on the file, and I lost it at some point, a long with a bunch of others – about 70 others.  And Dropbox closed the account that I stored them on, due to inactivity. Which is a thing (Ugh, Dropbox) if you didn’t know!

I no longer torrent because I have a Chromebook right now. I know you can on these little guys, somehow, someway, but I have enough diddleydoos and plugins and codes on here, that I don’t know how my non-developer self figured out, and y’all…I’m tired.

Which brings me to today’s discovery!

So, after searching high and low over the Interwebs “index of” for files whose names I could not even remember, using keywords such as “hypnosis drum beat procrastination” and “forest hypnosis” knowing damn well those were just attributes of the track and not present in their titles whatsoever…

I found the entire freaking database again!!

*Does Horizontal Happy Dance*… Meaning, just shimmying in bed ya sickies.

I was really only looking for one particular track, so I was stoked to find the whole thing.

Ladies, gents, I’m already reaping the benefits.

It is absolutely perfect timing for me because I need it. I am at an interesting life junction and not only have the time and space, but the will and patience, to really dive deep into these tracks and readings (oh yeah, there are PDFs also).

My energy is up and down write now, and the tracks are great background to help me feel better about laying in bed in the middle of the day (more info about the reason for that will come in another blog post <3).

I also needed the manifestation of finding it.

I will include a portion of track list and if anyone is interested just leave me a comment and I’ll link you.

I may just post the main link here later too. Or my own public Dropbox so people can access the material.

They are seriously amazing.


As for my writing. I would like to have my posts be more polished and edited with my punctuation on point and bold concepts given their rightful font, visual inflections and emphasis… but I’m happy writing and posting as is right now.

An unedited, unfussed, unself-conscious piece of writing that sees the light of day as a full blog post, –  rather than a 140 character, pithy reflection, posing as writing – is the goal for me right now.

In the past, the quest for perfect prose has kept me from publishing at all.  #AMetaphorYall


On that note, I am looking forward to writing more, and really giving you guys the real truth of my life.

I can’t tell you how much it helps me when I hear authentic stories from people who have given their audience the gift of their truth.

It is so much easier said than done to put out your truth, even if it’s to strangers.

It fascinates me how we have put ourselves in the position, as humans, where hiding things, faking the funk, and being scared to embody your true self (or even wonder who that is), is the norm. We are all the same with all the same crap so how do we even get away with judging each other? It’s almost laughable if you think about it – but I am guilty of it too. Judgement is not a sin. It is a useful human mechanism based on our 5 sensory receiving of information. Much of your identity, and organic self is cemented, perfected really, by knowing what you like and don’t like.

But the way in which humans have internalized the perception of others to the point where our truth has become confused, shame is the norm, and the voice in our head is more oppressive than its public, is both fascinating and upsetting.  I lean towards the latter in my characterization of it though, because I think judgment – of self, and of others – is the root cause for most individual suffering.



All that to say – thanks for being real! And thank you for reading without judgement (or with judgement! All is well).

Hit me up for the link or if you have any questions about Hypnosis, and/or why I’ve been in bed on and off for a week. I’m not sick. I haven’t had as much as a cold in 2 years but that’s a different blog post innit. 😀

Love you, Love Me, Love Life

Shout out to Bay Art for inviting me on as a contributor by the way. I read the description to the site and almost teared up because it was SO me, and so aligned with everything that I want to do with Truth Talks and MillennialsInTheVortex.

Thank you  for creating something that speaks to the core of my soul. My first post in still in progress, but it’s coming! Blessings to you and everyone on Bay Art.


What I learned in five years of blogging

So inspiring. Beautiful. Thank you Cristian. ❤

Cristian Mihai

Five years. Five years of daily blogging. Five years since I decided to never give up, no matter what. To keep writing, to keep blogging, to just keep at it for as long as it took.

And what a ride it has been. Around the world, indeed. 200 or so countries. Lots and lots of people, lots and lots of stories…

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Fairy Tales Do Exist

Fairy Tales do exist. We just need to stop trying to copy the one’s from the movies.

Make up your own ideal fairy tale and then watch as it comes true.



LIVE Happily Ever After.

Even Fairy Tales contain contrast. Huge Contrast!

And guess what? In those stories,the contrast is received and presented as exciting, fun, and new.

That is how we must treat contrast.

Seeing Each Other

Seeing Each Other

Tale as Old as Time

Boys and Girls

Isn’t LOVE



Each Other



Seeing Each Other



She sees


And Wonders

If He Sees Her

Fidgets with her scarf

Does he see her?

Does she want him to?



When we are Seeing Someone

We fear they might SEE

Someone Else.


What blockage.


Seeing the human spirit,

is a beautiful thing.

But are we equipped,

(to) See everyone?

Or are we trained

not to see at all.

Ron on Addiction and Positivity

Addiction Alcohol Drugs Conflict e-courseWith addicts, bitterness and victimization stems from self-pity or psychological state of mind where the person with addiction perceives themselves to be in adverse situations that they are unable to accept and they do not have the confidence nor ability to cope with it.

Self-pity is an adverse way of thinking that is destructive on an emotional level and leads to destruction on a physical level. When a person suppresses their emotion (suppresses their connection to love, joy and peace) they drain away their personal power, and those who regularly indulge in such thinking will have a very dim view about the future.

Those who are preoccupied with self-pity feel victimized, and the world becomes a terrifying place where they believe they have no real control. Loss of self-control gives the individual the excuse to not even try to improve their own life situation. Continued adverse thinking ultimately leads to a form of learned helplessness where the individual becomes completely dependent on other people.

This is a real challenge to loved ones and people who become caught up in caring for the person with the addiction. Often they find themselves in a role of providing “tough love” in order to survive.

You see there are two addictions at play here, firstly the person with addiction becomes entrenched in adverse thinking about themselves, causing inner discomfort. Then they project these feelings of discomfort onto others and the world, feeding and increasing the inner feelings of discomfort. Then they turn to another learned addiction of self-medicating to relieve the discomfort that they created through their own adverse thinking, and turn to alcohol, drugs, and anger (anger provides more drugs i.e. adrenaline and other hormones).

Alcohol and drugs offer a temporary reprieve from life where addicts use feelings of self-pity to justify their substance abuse. This addictive cycle occurs when the person has not developed effective coping skills to deal with the normal ups and downs in life. If this person becomes sober, and they continue to indulge in excessive adverse thinking and turning that to self-pity, it could prove to be their downfall.

It is important then to address the adverse thinking through firstly noticing when it is happening, learning to step back from such thinking, and most importantly bringing correction to those thoughts replacing them with truth. Truth always has a foundation of love. When one is experiencing love, peace and comfort there is no need for medication, alcohol or drugs. The secondary addiction takes care of itself!

The dangers of adverse thinking for people in recovery from addiction include:

  • Adverse thinking provides an excuse to return to alcohol or drug abuse. Projection by blaming uncomfortable feelings on other people, places, or things allows the addict to justify their discomfort and their need to alleviate their discomfort.
  • Adverse thinking suppresses emotional flow, causing feelings of powerlessness. In turn, the lack of motivation will get in the way of building a good life free from the need to self-medicate.
  • Adverse thinking reduces the person’s self-esteem, you cannot be in a space of attack and a space of love and peace at the same time. Feeling worthy of a better life comes from a space of love and love is just not available to a person who is in attack mode. Low self-esteem is a common problem for substance abusers, and this type of negative thinking can follow them into recovery.
  • Attacking the attack thoughts is to bring more attack to attack and increase the cycle. It can cause people to become stuck in their recovery. This means they will feel uncomfortable and will be tempted to turn to maladaptive behaviors as an escape from this.
  • An occasional brief episode of adverse thinking and self-pity is perfectly normal but some people can become trapped in this mode of thinking by repeating it so often that it becomes an automatic unconscious habit.
  • Adverse thinking will mean the individual will struggle to develop meaningful relationships. Relationships are built through love and connection, and again, this space is simply not available to one who is stuck in attack mode.


Adverse thinking is a behaviour that addicts tend to indulge in. If they indulge in the same pattern of thinking when they are sober it will prevent them from finding happiness and may cause them to relapse.

How to Overcome Adverse Thinking

There are things that people can do so that they do not fall into the trap of adverse thinking, or if they are caught up in adverse thinking there are new habits to be learned to enable escape to joy. The first thing that people need to do is recognize the uselessness of this type of adverse thinking and the affect that it has on their inner flow of love and peace. They should view it as a danger to their health and their sobriety, therefore being something to be avoided and replaced as much and as often as possible.

In order to overcome adversity, the individual needs to concentrate on what they can do rather than what they cannot do. The only way one can avoid the misfortunes in life is to focus on the positives and see positives in all things. What you focus on increases!

One of the main goals of recovery is to increase self-esteem. By stopping adverse thinking in its track and replacing adverse thinking with positive thinking, new habits are built. The individual can start off by achieving small goals but over time they will feel confident enough to tackle larger goals.

Emotional sobriety is the uninterrupted flow of love, joy and peace, and is the ability to face life on life’s terms. It also means not being afraid to feel emotions. It is possible to become physically sober in a matter of hours, but emotional sobriety will take time, practice and repetition.

Activities such as mindfulness meditation, journaling and counselling with an emotion focused therapist can help people develop emotional strength and regain their inner power. Exercise can also be a good way to increase inner power. Just going for a long walk, while holding a positive focus, can be enough to allow people to see the bigger picture and get beyond feeling sorry for themselves.

Everything happens for a reason and the reason is always for good. Each time you are faced with an adverse thought, causing discomfort within, say to yourself, “Yes, another opportunity to practice positive thinking!” Rather than viewing the challenges in life negatively it is better to see them as a chance to grow.

It is important for carers of people with addiction to demonstrate this skill at every opportunity. As social beings, we learn through the observation of others. All too often carers can be caught up in the cycle of adverse thinking too as carers too learn from our charges. Be vigilant with your thoughts and correct them at every opportunity.

Asking yourself, “How would love see this?” and “What would love do now?” are two of the most useful questions when faced with adversity. Sometimes love would look after you by taking some time out, connecting with positive focused friends, counsellors, life-coaches and support groups. Self-care is a major step in maintaining self-esteem.

Source: Addict living in a “fantasy world” of bitterness and victimization thinking

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